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RECORDINGS AND INSPIRATION FROM LEANING IN TO UNCERTAINTY CONVERSATIONS

CONVERSATION 3: STAYING WITH CONFLICT

STAYING WITH CONFLICT with Bernie Mayer

We think of conflict as a linear process requiring effective resolution. But the most important conflicts in our lives and our world do not end--they endure in one form or another, sometimes for many years. This presents a major challenge and a major opportunity.

In this session we will explore what constructive conflict engagement means in practice and consider how to reconstruct conflict narratives so that the enduring element is framed clearly and constructively, not avoiding conflict, but engaging it.

NOTES AND ADDITIONAL RESOURCES - STAYING WITH CONFLICT

Bernard Mayer

Bernie Mayer, Professor of Dispute Resolution, The Werner Institute, Creighton University, is a leader in the field of conflict resolution.  Bernie has worked in child welfare, mental health, substance abuse treatment, and psychotherapy.  As a founding partner of CDR Associates, Bernie has provided conflict intervention for families, communities, universities, corporations, and governmental agencies throughout North America and internationally for over 35 years. Bernie’s latest book, The Conflict Paradox, Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes, is just out (January, 2015).  Earlier books include: The Dynamics of Conflict, Beyond Neutrality, and Staying With Conflict.
For more resources about Bernie´s work, have a look here.

 

 

From our conversation Linda Newell share these interesting resources connected to our this topic.

Here are some of my favorite resources on identity, power, and difference. These are websites of organizations doing wonderful dialogue and social justice work. Some have diversity within them or also offer affinity group work within identities. 

CONVERSATION 2: COMPASSIONATE CONVERSATIONS

Leaning in

Compassionate Conversations

With Diane Musho Hamilton, Gabriel Menegal Wilson and Kimberly Myosai Loh

When a conversation takes a turn into the sometimes uncomfortable and often contentious topics of race, religion, gender, sexuality, and politics, it can be difficult to know what to say or how to respond to someone you disagree with. In this conversation, we talk to the authors of Compassionate Conversations about transforming these conversations into opportunities to bridge divides and mend relationships by providing the basic set of conflict resolution skills we need to be successful, including listening, reframing, and dealing with strong emotions.

See recordings, notes and links to the newly released book below.

Notes and links from the Compassionate Conversations Session:

And here are the book / resources recommendations that were shared during the call:

  • 'The Nordic Secret' by Tomas Bjorkmanwith good history of how the German philosophers of the 18th Century and the concept of 'Bildung' was used by the Nordic nations to develop. Resonates with Ken Wilber material.
  • 5 stages of Grief: "On Grief and Grieving" Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler
  • The William Bridges model for change based on the Kubler Ross grief curve
  • Diane’s 2nd book - The Zen of You and Me: https://www.shambhala.com/the-zen-of-you-and-me.html
  • Lawrence Kohlberg six stages of moral development.
  • Also Tomas Bjorkman's 10 circles of belonging and ego-development.
  • 'Sitting in the Fire‘ by Arnold Mindell

CONVERSATION 1: PRACTISING FOR PEACE WITH TOKE MØLLER

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INSPIRATION FROM THE CONVERSATION WITH TOKE

Each day of human life contains joy and anger,
Pain and pleasure, darkness and light, growth and decay,
Each moment is etched with natures grand design
Do not try to oppress or deny the cosmic order of life.

The Art of Peace is based on Four Great virtues:
Bravery, Wisdom, Love and Friendship,
Symbolized by Fire, Heaven, Earth and Water.

- O Sensei (Founder of Aikido)

Regardless (By Toke Møller, 2018)
Co-create with Others, Practicing Peace

Regardless of the chaos and confusion
that is surely a great part of what is
also happening now in our world.

It is always time for
Warriors of the heart
Stewards of Life
Fierce love of Love
Compassion to spare
Friendship and trust
in and between us
and
Joy
Beyond control

More information about Practising for Peace here

Notes and links to the newly released book below.

  • https://www.compassionateconversations.com
  • https://www.shambhala.com/compassionate-conversations.html
    CC30

And here are the book / resources recommendations that were shared during the call, shall we put them somewhere as well? Or in the follow up eMail, maybe that is the better way, hm?

  • The Nordic Secret' by Tomas Bjorkmanwith good history of how the German philosophers of the 18th Century and the concept of 'Bildung' was used by the Nordic nations to develop. Resonates with Ken Wilber material.
  • 5 stages of Grief: "On Grief and Grieving" Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler
  • The William Bridges model for change based on the Kubler Ross grief curve
  • Diane’s 2nd book - The Zen of You and Me: https://www.shambhala.com/the-zen-of-you-and-me.html
  • Lawrence Kohlberg six stages of moral development. Also Tomas Bjorkman's 10 circles of belonging and ego-development.
  • 'Sitting in the Fire‘ by Arnold Mindell

Compassionate Conversations

Notes and links from the Compassionate Conversations Session:

https://www.compassionateconversations.com

https://www.shambhala.com/compassionate-conversations.html
Discount code: CC30

And here are the book / resources recommendations that were shared during the call, shall we put them somewhere as well? Or in the follow up eMail, maybe that is the better way, hm?

  • 'The Nordic Secret' by Tomas Bjorkmanwith good history of how the German philosophers of the 18th Century and the concept of 'Bildung' was used by the Nordic nations to develop. Resonates with Ken Wilber material.
  • 5 stages of Grief: "On Grief and Grieving" Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler
  • The William Bridges model for change based on the Kubler Ross grief curve
  • Diane’s 2nd book - The Zen of You and Me: https://www.shambhala.com/the-zen-of-you-and-me.html
  • Lawrence Kohlberg six stages of moral development.
  • Also Tomas Bjorkman's 10 circles of belonging and ego-development.
  • 'Sitting in the Fire‘ by Arnold Mindell